How to Live Your Best Life (in Six Simple Steps)
Sitting on the couch, scrolling through Facebook I carefully examined everyone’s posts and pictures.
It was Christmas Day.
Too cold to get dressed, I sat in my mis-matched pyjamas, overeating mint chocolate sweets, feeling guilty as each one went down.
Another broken diet, another boring Christmas.
Me around the time of my misfortune.
By this point, I had been chronically unemployed since leaving collage three years before. The only job I had at this time was temp-work in a meat packing factory which I absolutely detested.
To keep myself busy, I did short college courses or volunteered for different charities. They were closed on Christmas which, for me, was one of the worst days of the year.
I hit Facebook in my spare time, and I currently had a lot of that.
The vast majority of my Facebook friends were people who had gone to the same high school as me. For the last few years, I started to get this awful impression that I was ‘behind’ all of them in terms of life stage. They were all:
Getting engaged or planning their weddings
Buying houses
Landing dream jobs with more money per year than I could ever dream of making
And here I was, scrolling on Facebook too scared to check my bank balance.
My entire life, I had never been a jealous person. I spent a lot of time just focusing on myself, what I was doing, and where I was going. But, sadly, the years of constant single-hood, job application rejection, and general bad luck had worn me down. Its not easy to admit it, but at this time of my life I began to secretly envy other people.
As I flicked through Facebook, every post seemed to hit me worst than the last. I would feel that ping of jealousy with every update, every refresh.
Women celebrating the holidays in the Bahamas.
Women getting engaged to their partners
Women giving their families the nicest, most expensive gifts
And here I was, secretly fantasising that it was me in those posts. I spent a lot of time wondering what it would be like to live that type of life: a life where goals were made, and then they were achieved.
Suddenly, Everything Changed For Me
The life I lived back then massively contrasts with the life I started living just a few years later.
Within a few short years, I founded my company, started my blog, won awards, got granted a book deal, and earned over £8000 one Christmas Day from an e-book promotion.
I’m now an expert in achievement. I even have a short course which teaches my students how they can energetically attract the things they want. (Find out more about that here).
And, exactly 10 years after that particular Christmas, I spent the holidays panning for gold in Australia with my husband:
So, what happened?
How did I go from someone who couldn’t even manifest a job interview to someone who was literally pulling gold from a river?
More importantly, how can you achieve the life of your dreams? What each individual person classes as their ‘fantasy life’ will vary greatly, but one thing remains the same - the process behind their transformations.
Here are the steps you need to take in order to live your best life and hit your goals:
How to Live Your Best Life: The Steps
Dive into Manifestation
Manifestation is the process of energetically attracting the life you want. It involves aligning your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and actions with your desires, so that what you envision internally begins to take form in your external reality.
Back when I struggled to achieve the life I wanted, I had tried out different manifestation exercises, but they had never worked out for me.
One of the reasons why they didn’t work, was because I didn’t understand the actual process behind manifestation. Manifestation wasn’t what I thought it was. However, once I learned how to do it (properly!) life took a turn for the better.
Fix your Mindset
Where you are now is a direct result of your mindset up until this point. If you want to change your life, you must change your mindset.
When I wasn’t living my best life, I held a lot of faulty beliefs about myself. Looking back now, I can see how they really held me back. If I didn’t have that mindset, I would have found my way out of my situation sooner.
Believing that I actually could start my own business was the catalyst that helped me start. Before, I didn’t think I had enough tech or accounting skills to be able to do it, but once I got over this self-doubt everything fell into place.
For example, I didn’t escape chronic unemployment until I started my own business. It was the influence of someone else who showed me that starting my own business as a spiritual advisor was possible. If my mindset would have been in a better place, I would have pursued this calling a lot sooner.
I understand that this can be hard to hear. Back when I wanted to change my life, I felt as though I was doing everything right but still wasn’t moving forward. I was volunteering for charity. I was improving my education. I was applying for jobs every single week. And yet, nothing!
But, there was one thing I could control - stepping into my calling. The signs were always there I was meant to be a spiritual teacher. I just had to fix my mindset, get out of my own way, and go for it.
Cultivate Gratitude
From an energetic standpoint, gratitude can help you to attract the life you want. How? Because gratitude will get you in the energetic state you need to encompass so that you can attract better. In order to change your life, I want you to be grateful for two things.
The first is the most obvious: be grateful for what you have. If you look around you, you’ll notice that the most ungrateful people are the ones who are in a constant state of frustration. Nothing ever works out of these people and, when it does, they’re still not happy. So, count your blessings and do it frequently!
Secondly, I want you to be grateful when you see other people with the things you want. Why? Because this is evidence that the things you want are drawing closer to you. They are in your energetic circle, and that is why you are seeing them.
Instead of feeling jealous, angry, or bitter that someone else is living your dream life, try instead to get excited! Remind yourself that you’re seeing it because it is making its way towards you.
Get Clear on Your Desires
When I teach my students how to manifest their dreams, one area I focus on heavily is goal-setting. You can’t achieve your dream life without knowing what your dream life looks like. After all, how will you know what you’re attracting?
In order to align your energy and mindset with the things you want, you have to get very clear on who you want to become otherwise, you’ll never be able to embody that person. Therefore, getting clear on your desires is a must.
Identify and Flip Negative Self-Talk
Nothing will hold you back from achieving the life you want more than a negative mindset. As long as your mindset is faulty, you’ll struggle to move far beyond where you are now. That’s why I recommend identifying and flipping negative self-talk.
In order to achieve your dreams, you have to learn how to flip any negative self-talk.
For example, one thing my students often tell themselves is that they’re not qualified to teach others subjects they’re clearly experts in (such as Tarot, astrology, and similar topics). This is despite the fact that I can clearly see they’re ready to teach. So, I encourage them to identify the ‘I’m not ready’ block and replace it with the mindset of ‘I am a qualified teacher.’ I then instruct them to repeat the phrase ‘I am a qualified teacher’ over and over until they believe it.
Know the Signs of Manifestation
Finally, an important aspect of living your best life, is being able to identify the signs that your dream life is coming to fruition. I say this because a lot of people actually mistake these clues as ‘signs’ of the opposite.
For example, before a plan comes together, everything will fall apart. If you ask any spiritual teacher, they can affirm that this is true. People who achieve great things always have the worst luck beforehand.
Those who never achieve their dreams? They take this as a sign that their dreams are not meant to be. They say it is too hard. They say they are being blocked. They make comments like, “If if was meant to be it would be easy!” They give up.
However, remember, where you are now is a direct reflection of your mindset up until this point. If you want to have different, you have to be different. Before you achieve your dream life, the universe will prepare you for this new version of yourself. You’ll face challenges and hardships you have never had to experience. This is so that you can develop the resilience, wisdom, and strength you need to ‘birth’ the new you.
People who achieve their dreams keep pushing. If a path is blocked, they find a detour. Sure, they might have days where they sit feeling sorry for themselves, but afterwards they get back up and dust themselves off.
Knowing the signs of manifestation is a key aspect of achieving your goals. Without knowing this information makes it a lot easier to discern if you’re on the right path.
How to Live Your Best Life: Conclusions
To recap, if you want to live your best life and achieve a life beyond your wildest dreams, you have to take these actions:
Dive into manifestation. So that you can energetically attract the life you want.
Fix your mindset. So that you have the right frame of mind.
Cultivate gratitude. Again, gratitude will keep you in a positive state of mind instead of a negative one.
Get clear on your desires. So that you know exactly what you’re attracting.
Identify and flip any negative self-talk. So that you don’t hold yourself back.
Know the sign of manifestation. So that you can see when your dreams are coming to fruition.
I help my students do all of this and more in my upcoming course, Dream Life. The Dream Life Course will help you to identify exactly what you want and create a plan for achieving it.
We open for enrolment next week, so be sure to check us out here:
Other than that, have a great day and good luck with achieving your dream life.
Lisa xx
